Just a thing.

I don’t get it.

Did Tumblr staff explicitly say that the maintenance would affect the Tumblr UI or implement features for the users?

I’m pretty sure the answer to that question is no. So why am i seeing so much bitching on my dashboard about the maintenance being completely useless as though literally everything they do has to impact the user in a way the user would see?

Really, the users of any system  only actually see an incredibly small part of what the system actually is, so it’s completely possible to 100% change how a system works, migrate databases, etc. without the users even knowing because the UI’s still the same. That’s not to say that’s what Tumblr actually did, just that it’s completely possible to do and that they definitely did something that no users saw.

But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t help users at all? I dunno, I’m just annoyed by how entitled some people are being that they seem to be incredibly inconvenienced that every update or Tumblr maintenance (wow look they even called it maintenance and not something implying they’re going to change Tumblr for users) is not a change that they see and approve of even though they only actually see a vary small part of what Tumblr as a system actually is.

adorpted:

almost NOTHING pisses me off more than people (usually teenage girls) who say they’re going to have a son and make him gay

• you cannot force people to do anything
• half of the shit you say you’re going to DO with your child is irrelevant and doesn’t have to do with them being gay
• your child is not a toy or a plaything
• you cannot “ship” them with their friends
• you cannot do any of that shit
• stop it

oh my god do people actually do this???? oh my GOD no. That really promotes the disgusting and completely wrong idea that you can make someone be a sexuality. That is NOT okay!

holy shit

(Source: taaeil)

bythefrickens:

in all honesty I think the whole ‘men’s rights’ movement, in theory, actually has the potential to do a lot of good things, for example, providing support for trans men or campaigning against the circumcision of boys too young to decide for themselves whether they want to have it done or not.

but really it’s just one big competition to MRAs. they only come out of the woodwork when women start doing and saying things - if somebody points out that women are portrayed badly by the media, for example, MRAs will launch into an argument of how men are treated EVEN WORSE SO YOU NASTY BITCHES HAVE NO RIGHT TO COMPLAIN!!!1 they could be doing worthwhile things but instead they just want to be able to do whatever they want whenever they want and be praised and rewarded for it.

This.

Especially because one topic I see come up a lot among MRAs is its take on representation and expectations of men and how they’re constantly put up to ridiculous protector role bullshit and that’s super “misandrist” but??? why don’t you guys do something about it??? A lot of people really know that men can be victims of abuse and have moments of weakness and have emotions and show them and that the problem lies with established gender roles, and will gladly and rationally explain that to people. And also that’s one huge thing that femenism is attempting to fight! But rather than make an ally out of femenism and be male counterpart for its ideals, I’ve only seen MRAs attack and feel victimized by femenism and what it stands for. So it’s really rather disappointing, in the end, that a bunch of dudes who complain about how the world is a bad place for a man to be in right now aren’t actually doing anything productive towards making it a better place for anyone to be in.

I really hate it when people take it so personally and get defensive if their “advice” or their way of helping is responded to in a less than perfect way.

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bythefrickens:

messiahforhire:

bythefrickens:

was I the only one who thought it was hella creepy that peter parker took photographs of the girl he liked without her knowing

because that’s weird stop doing that

No that was defs creepy and made me a little uncomfortable

Also that he made her into his computer’s wallpaper

And that he had a little bit of trouble taking some sort of expressed “no” as an answer.

And that it was all supposed to be endearing.

“Im gonna reveal my secret identity to this girl I’ve spoken to about three times also her dad is the chief of police and then I’m going to kiss her forcefully and tell her to shut up when she tries to pull away and looks visibly distressed because she’ll like it eventually”

peter parker: totally not creepy

He’s also a terrible house guest.

Like first of all he gets into their appartment with only Gwen knowing when and how he got there (red flags!), and then he seems to have committed the social faux-pas of that household of being underdressed for dinner (i guess??? like I mean that thing just seems like the movie was being stupid about trying to tell us “hey theyre a rich and snooty family guysssss!!!” I guess????? it was dumb), so the reasonable course of action would be to try and make the rest of your first impression as good as possible by behaving well, right? So clearly that coincides with, as the first thread of conversation opens, arguing with Gwen’s father that he’s doing his job (that he’s clearly proud of!) completely wrong.

Like wow RUDE

(And also he’s just an asshole to Gwen at the end of the movie for no reason? Like okay man first of all let her father dictate your relationship for sure yes definitely. But okay even if you’re agreeing with his logic, let her know so she can at least be given the chance to express her opinions about that. She’s got a good head on her shoulders, I think she can figure out that being w/ Spiderman could be dangerous for herself. Plus none of that even justifies basically trying to excommunicate her from your life. Dude, she saved your life by putting herself in a situation that puts hers in an extreme risk, the very least you could do is NOT BE A GIANT DICK TO HER ok.)

kumaradosha:

allheliabreaksloose:

kumaradosha reblogged your post: kumaradosha: allheliabreaksloose: softowl: …

She was stalked and harassed into getting a tumblr? I’m not even arguing that she chose to get all this attention. The…

Okay, she had a tumblr before this started. And then people stalked Andrew until they found a sliver of evidence of Softowl’s internet presence and then they followed and harassed and harangued her and NEVER STOPPED.

So, you’re saying that if she doesn’t want this, she shouldn’t have a tumblr? Fuck you, SHE doesn’t need to do anything, it’s the people who are fucking around and being shitheads and stalking her that needs to change. 

Nobody should have to deal with this and even if she deleted her tumblr? Guess what, she’d STILL be stalked and harassed. You understand nothing, you self righteous child.

“Fuck you, SHE doesn’t need to do anything, it’s the people who are fucking around and being shitheads and stalking her that needs to change.”

And when they DON’T change because they’re jerks, she will still have the same problem. Suggesting the ideal is nice and all, but people have to deal with problems based on reality. And the reality is that people are not going to stop being evil over the internet.

(Note: This isn’t a reply to this specific post just what you’ve said about this situation in general. The stuff that’s in parentheses is where I’m getting what you’re saying even if they’re not the words you’re using.)

You know I’ve got to say that after reading through all of your replies that you have shown little to no introspection! You’re told that you’re acting rude and condescending, and then yes, you do say “I’m sorry”, but it’s done in a rude/condescending manner or in a post that’s just as rude and condescending as your first one. (Adding things like “Sheesh.” at the end of a response, reiterating your original point as though no one understood what you were trying to say and also that your advice was a truly groundbreaking thing that no one could have possibly considered before!) So you may have used the words “I’m sorry” but it’s basically impossible to accept that you actually are and aren’t just being even more patronizing when you didn’t actually say it with the words surrounding that little phrase.

Furthermore, you aren’t accepting the responsibility for having come off as patronizing. You’re saying “I’m sorry that you took my argument the wrong way???? did you even read what i wrote?????????????? look I’m totally just being super helpful GOSH you’re just overreacting!!!!! [sic]” (you’ve made quite a few mentions that you were just trying to be helpful, that you definitely did not mean for others to take it they way they did, that they didn’t actually read your responses at all and are putting words in your mouth, and that their response is disproportionate). So rather than take a step back and trying to think about where you may have erred for people to have developed such an opinion, you kept making posts that really imply that you feel as though none of the problem lies on you, but solely on others, who are just not reading your posts the way you read them. That’s pretty uncool.

And after you don’t seem try to make what can be read as a sincere apology, you just tried to play yourself as a victim. (There was a post that someone made about being mortified about Softowl being threatened as she said she was and your response was “Wait… are you talking to ME?” and acting offended that they would say such things about you, which really shows that you are a person who definitely needed to shove your way into that and make it look like they were attacking you when they bolded everything  that they were specifically referring to in Softowl’s post, and even removed what you had written. And you seem fond of the concept of “shooting the messenger” describing you being attacked for simply saying the cold hard truth thereby completely circumventing the need to even consider that you may be out of line, which also carries the wonderful implication that everyone who is upset with your behaviour is upset because they’re irrationally avoiding the truth that you, being so enlightened, are choosing to grace them with.)

Basically, your apologies would probably be taken seriously by others if you took it seriously too. Your behaviour during/after your ‘apologies’ was the same as beforehand, you don’t seem to care to take responsibility for anything you’ve said, and you’re also trying to play yourself up as a victim. None of this is cool at all.

(Source: raisehelia)